
What Meaning and Message Does This Work Convey?
The reason I did this project is because I wanted to showcase the importance of investing time into cultivating happiness, rather than allowing yourself to be conditioned into thinking happiness comes from people or material objects. Although those things can bring temporary happiness, it won’t be long lasting. By using the S.P.I.R.E. model as a base for my questions, I hope to show how keeping a “check-list” for your well-being can help to maintain steady levels of happiness for longer periods of time. The cultivation of happiness is a necessary step for maintaining a healthy well-being.
What is the S.P.I.R.E Model and Who Created It?
The S.P.I.R.E. model is a philosophy that teachers one how to cultivate happiness by tending the five parts of your well-being. The five equally important parts of your well-being are Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Relational, and Emotional (by clicking on the different types of well-being, you can read some helpful articles about each type of well-being and how to improve them for yourself). This model was created by Tal Ben-Shahar. Ben-Shahar is the author of the book titled Happier No Matter What: Cultivating Hope, Resilience, and Purpose in Hard Times, the book from which I drew my inspiration for this study.
What is the Thought and Creative Process?
When I first thought about this project, I asked myself “How are people cultivating their happiness,” and “Are people keeping their well-being, well-rounded?” Inspired by this thought, I created a series of 18 questions in total (15 of which were based on the S.P.I.R.E. method and three to have the person reflect on their current state). The participants answers were then used to show where they fall short of total well-being and how close they are to feeling authentically happy.
I decided to use the S.P.I.R.E. method because it uses all aspects of well-being. By following this method, one can highlight in which category he or she is weakest or strongest. Once the weakness has been pinpointed, it is up to the person to correct it in order to maximize their happiness. This is not meant to be a medical analysis in any way. It is just a way to do a self-check-in. It is a way to be more self-aware of your well-being and to see whether one is doing all they can to cultivate authentic happiness, or if they might be supplementing that happiness in another way.
How is the Message of Happiness and Well-being Conveyed?
Happiness is seen as illusive, when really it can be cultivated by anyone at any time. The message of happiness and well-being is conveyed by bringing to light how obtainable it is to the average person. By using the S.P.I.R.E. method, one can ‘monitor’ what category of their wellness is lacking and make the necessary adjustments to strengthen it for overall improved well-being. Happiness is obtainable and my goal is to share that realization with others.
So, Let’s Get Down to the Good Part.
So, this study was done by creating 18 questions (15 questions based on the S.P.I.R.E. model and three miscellaneous to get people to realize whether they feel happy or not). The participants answers were then used to show where they fall short of total well-being and how close they are to feeling authentically happy. Once the answers are written, the participants can then make the choice to use their answers as a guide for self-improvement or to maintain their current state.
I interviewed four participants from the University of Mary Washington (UMW). One is a student, one is a professor, one is a psychologist working in the Talley Center and one is the Dean of Students. I chose these four people because for one, they represent different aspects of life. A student will see mental health differently than a mental healthcare professional. The second reason is these answers show the different mindsets at different stages of life (someone who has recently come into their own as an individual in society vs. people who are established in life). So, check out the interviews below and I hope you enjoy!
Emma – Student
Emma is a second-year student at UMW. She also works as a Peer Mentor for an FSEM (Freshman Seminar) class on campus. Let’s see how she maintains her wellness and how she views happiness in her life:
Spiritual
1. What do you do to practice daily mindfulness? How do these practices differ from the ones you implement during times of stress?
A: On the daily, I like to set aside a period of the day that is just for me. It is usually a different time each day – whenever I find time or need it most. Recently, this has taken the form of watching a movie, scrolling on my phone, playing board games with friends, or just sleeping. I try to do something similar in times of stress but (especially if I’m under the pressure of a deadline) try to keep it to a smaller amount of time.
2. Do you find meaning or purpose in your job? If so, why (what is it about my job that makes it meaningful)?
A: I have a couple of jobs, and I find meaning in each of them in different ways. In my work as a peer mentor to first-years I think I find the most meaning. I love making connections with new people and guiding these students through the beginning of this new journey for them. The peer mentor I got assigned as a first-year did not do this for me or my classmates so I’m happy to be able to give others the supportive experience I did not have.
3. Do you every take time out to disconnect from society and be one with our Creator? What are some ways that you like to do so?
A: I am not a religious person so I wouldn’t say I take time praying but I do like to take time to disconnect in general to just think or connect with other things that are important to me. Recently, I have been trying to find ways to manage my anxiety. One of these ways is through swimming, which is something I haven’t really had the time to do much since I was on a team. Swimming gives me the time to think, relax, and ease any mental tension I may have.
Physical
1. What do you do to take care of yourself physically?
A: I try to walk as much as I can every day, and I swim at least once a week.
2. Do you take the time to rest and recover your body?
A: Yes! I have a chronic illness called postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (POTS) so taking the time to rest and recover is not an option for me. Even just going through my day exhausts me physically so I have to take the time to recover from that as well.
3. Name three ways you deal with stress.
A: Poorly – procrastinating. Positively – breaking up my work, rewarding myself with breaks
Intellectual
1. Do you engage in deep learning as a hobby? What are some of the things you like to do to expand your intellectual well-being?
A: No, I do not. To expand my intellectual well-being, I try to read as much as I can and take the extra step in research when I find something interesting. I am also learning a second language at the moment.
2. Do you take failure as a learning experience? How so?
A: Yes! Especially if I am aware of what I did wrong. In the future, I can remember what to fix and apply that to similar situations.
3. When pursuing a passion, do you focus more on the process or the outcome? Why?
A: Definitely the outcome. I am a perfectionist, so I always try to figure out the best way to represent something. I have also noticed when I am doing a project or writing a paper that I think about how I want the end result to look first, then figure out how to accomplish that.
Relational
1.What do you do in your daily life to take care of yourself?
A: Spend time with/talk to loved ones and make sure to take time for myself.
2. Are you a giver? If so, what does giving do for your well-being?
A: I believe so. I like doing things for others because it provides some ease to their day and some amount of joy. I think giving is definitely a good thing for my well-being but at the same time, I know I need to focus on myself more often.
3. If you have a disagreement with a loved one, what do you do to resolve the issue? How does this help your relationship to grow?
A: I usually like to talk about the situation and discuss what went wrong and why one of us (or both) is upset. But, I also try to take note of if the other person needs some space as well. Respecting each other’s boundaries as well as pinpointing the issue really improves my relationships after the disagreement. I have noticed in the past that if the issue is not discussed, then the same argument continues to repeat itself.
Emotional
1. How do you embrace painful emotions?
A: I have to remind myself that the emotion is temporary, and I can get through whatever I am feeling in the moment.
2. What do you do to keep yourself appreciative in your life?
A: I just try to embrace every moment I can.
3. How do you convince yourself to see your emotions as temporary?
A: Sometimes I have to just repeat it to myself out loud so it doesn’t feel like everything is in my head.
Miscellaneous
1. What does happiness mean to you?
A: A general satisfaction with a situation or life. It means I have a strong support system and am surrounded with people who love and care about me.
2. At what age do you think we should teach ‘Happiness’ (about overall wellbeing) in schools? Why?
A: As early as possible! Learning to recognize and discuss emotions as well as how to take care of yourself mentally is sooooo important. We begin teaching physical wellness very young (even with simple stuff like band aids) so why not teach mental health as well? It doesn’t have to be complicated, but just introducing the idea into ‘health’ would be so beneficial.
3. Overall, do you consider yourself to be happy?
A: Yes!
Dr. Kristin Marsh – Professor
Next, we have the thoughts of Professor Marsh. Professor Marsh works under the Department of Sociology. Since she is someone who studies society, I wondered how she sees herself as an individual. If you’re interested in picking her brain, read below.
Spiritual
1. What do you do to practice daily mindfulness? How do these practices differ from the ones you implement during times of stress?
A: Not much, actually; I’m a self-reflective person (rethink things I’ve said in conversations, or embarrassing moments, for example) and it doesn’t help at all; I don’t meditate; I do try to remind myself that I’m enough.
2. Do you find meaning or purpose in your job? If so, why (what is it about my job that makes it meaningful)?
A: I find connecting with students to be the most meaningful part of my job. Over time, this is the only thing that has really held up.
3. Do you every take time out to disconnect from society and be one with our Creator? What are some ways that you like to do so?
A: I am not on social media; I take walks with my dog; I enjoy my family, the outdoors when it’s warm, and my garden. My garden is my happy place.
Physical
1. What do you do to take care of yourself physically?
A: Try to get enough sleep (I’m best with 8 hours) and try to get to the gym regularly. I keep doctor’s appointments and specific checks (mammograms; colonoscopies; dental check-ups)
2. Do you take the time to rest and recover your body?
A: Sure (getting enough sleep)
3. Name three ways you deal with stress.
A: I drink (ha ha, but true); I occasionally vent to friends; I exercise.
Intellectual
1. Do you engage in deep learning as a hobby? What are some of the things you like to do to expand your intellectual well-being?
A: I have to read a lot for work; it’s been hard to spend much time on extra-curricular reading.
2. Do you take failure as a learning experience? How so?
A: I take failure very hard and very personally; Do I learn from it? I guess so, but it would be hard to pinpoint exactly how.
3. When pursuing a passion, do you focus more on the process or the outcome? Why?
A: Both; time is limited, and I like to see results; but I also like to do things well. I rarely finish a project within allotted time.
Relational
1.What do you do in your daily life to take care of yourself?
A: I think you’ve already asked this, so not sure what I can add. I take showers. I eat meals.
2. Are you a giver? If so, what does giving do for your well-being?
A: Yes. Absolutely. I don’t know what it does for my well-being; I just enjoy it.
3. If you have a disagreement with a loved one, what do you do to resolve the issue? How does this help your relationship to grow?
A: I’m terrible with conflict and get defensive when I think I’m not communicating effectively; I have been practicing leaving the situation if an argument gets circular.
Emotional
1. How do you embrace painful emotions?
A: I don’t.
2. What do you do to keep yourself appreciative in your life?
A: I verbalize appreciation and enjoyment.
3. How do you convince yourself to see your emotions as temporary?
A: I try to acknowledge them and then put them aside and move on.
Miscellaneous
1. What does happiness mean to you?
A: It’s a triggering word to me; my mother always said “I just want you to be happy” which was a lot of pressure.
2. At what age do you think we should teach ‘Happiness’ (about overall wellbeing) in schools? Why?
A: I don’t think we should teach happiness; I think we should teach practices of mindfulness and acceptance always; never too young.
3. Overall, do you consider yourself to be happy?
A: Not particularly. I’m grateful and appreciative of my relationships. I find happiness in moments, in activities, in friendships. I’m not—as a whole—a happy person. I’m not unhappy, though. My life satisfaction is pretty good, overall.
Dr. Amira Niori – Staff Psychologist
Dr. Niori is a staff psychologist at the Talley Center on campus. As a mental healthcare professional, she has first-hand insight on the effects of either neglecting or prioritizing one’s wellness and what effect it has on your overall happiness. This made me interested in seeing how a mental health professional prioritizes their well-being and happiness. Dr. Niori’s interview is posted below.
Spiritual
1. What do you do to practice daily mindfulness? How do these practices differ from the ones you implement during times of stress?
A: I check in with myself daily about how I am feeling, and I am very intentional about happiness. Thus, I make sure that I note the good things that occurred in my day. During times of stress because things tend to feel bigger than they really are I simply keep things in perspective by reminding myself that this shall pass, and this is temporary. I also validate whatever it is that I am feeling and allow myself to feel it.
2. Do you find meaning or purpose in your job? If so, why (what is it about my job that makes it meaningful)?
A: Yes. As a psychologist I find it meaningful and fulfilling to help others.
3. Do you every take time out to disconnect from society and be one with our Creator? What are some ways that you like to do so?
A: Yes, I pray and ask for guidance when needed.
Physical
1. What do you do to take care of yourself physically?
A: I take care of my mental health as mental health impacts physical health. I also meet my basic needs (e.g., eat, drink water, physical activity, take care of illness).
2. Do you take the time to rest and recover your body?
A: Absolutly and on a daily basis by listening to my body and utilizing daily self-care.
3. Name three ways you deal with stress.
A: Normalize it, because it is not always a bad thing. Prioritize my responsibilities; while keeping things in perspective (e.g., I may not have the capacity to finish all my chores or cook dinner every night this week). I have learned to meet myself where I am at to avoid things like burnout.
Intellectual
1. Do you engage in deep learning as a hobby? What are some of the things you like to do to expand your intellectual well-being?
A: As a psychologist, ethically I must continue to learn as the field and research is always changing. Thus, I attend conferences every year and obtain my Continuing Education Units (CEU’s) from various training courses of interest each year. No, I do not tend to engage in deep learning as a hobby.
2. Do you take failure as a learning experience? How so?
A: Yes, because we do learn from a failed experience. We learn what we could have done better or spent more time or did things differently.
3. When pursuing a passion, do you focus more on the process or the outcome? Why?
A: The process because thats where all of the learning happens.
Relational
1.What do you do in your daily life to take care of yourself?
A: Engage in daily self-care and operate within my boundaries.
2. Are you a giver? If so, what does giving do for your well-being?
A: Yes, naturally. It goes along with the helper in me. It is fulfilling, however, with good use of boundaries.
3. If you have a disagreement with a loved one, what do you do to resolve the issue? How does this help your relationship to grow?
A: We talk about things until we both feel good about the resolution or compromise. This approach helps the relationship to grow and thrive because we both feel heard, validated, and comfortable in the choices or decisions that we have made together.
Emotional
1. How do you embrace painful emotions?
A: I allow myself to feel them.
2. What do you do to keep yourself appreciative in your life?
A: Oh, I take nothing for granted. I know that I am on borrowed time and so I live for each day especially when it comes to my partner and kids.
3. How do you convince yourself to see your emotions as temporary?
A: They are. The proof is in the pudding. However, sometimes, even when I know that eventually the emotion will change, maybe because the situation will change, I can regulate (move on from) my distressing emotions so that they do not linger which consequently causes the emotion to be temporary.
Miscellaneous
1. What does happiness mean to you?
A: It means going after and being intentional about it.
2. At what age do you think we should teach ‘Happiness’ (about overall wellbeing) in schools? Why?
A: I believe happiness/ emotions in general should be taught at home before a child goes to school. I have discussed emotions with my children since infancy, which has helped them to better communicate and express themselves and what is bothering them. As a result, they can ask for what they need and soothe themselves.
3. Overall, do you consider yourself to be happy?
A: Yes, typically. However, as a human being I experience an array of emotions.
Dean Melissa Jones – Dean of Students/Associate Vice President of Student Affairs
Dean Jones oversees Student Life at UMW and serves as the Chair of the Behavioral Intervention Team (BIT). With a background in psychology, she was an unexpected attachment to the mental health field. Her role at UMW is an integral part of helping students meet expected University behavioral standards in order to succeed socially, personally, and academically. I was able to record a sit-down one-on-one interview with her. Click on the three-part interview below.
In Conclusion…
It seems for the most part, the people I interview have a grasp on their well-being. Although some admitted to not being happy all the time, it is okay. Happiness is like the ebb and flow of the sea. There is no constant with happiness. No one will ever be happy 24/7. That is an impossible goal to attain.
However, they do all see the importance of their well-being. The four participants all seem to have a strong sense of self, and maybe that contributes to their strong well-being practices. Even when they do not think they have a strong enough plan for their physical well-being, the consistency they show in their routines show otherwise. Even if they are not consciously aware, their subconscious is doing all it can to keep their well-being in check.
When it comes to painful emotions, the interviewees allow themselves to feel them. Although it is not an ideal feeling, they are aware that they have to acknowledge them. But spiritual had multiple answers. They might not all be religious/spiritual, but they all find ways to recenter themselves and take in their surroundings. However, they all have a giving nature that comes from within. This shows the compassion they have for others and the ability to see beyond themselves for the sake of helping others prosper.
Overall, I feel these interviews showed how important it is to be well-rounded in your well-being. Just because one part is not as stacked as the others, does not mean that happiness is achievable. Just like anything in life, you will have your strengths and weaknesses. It seems like keeping something in that category is key (do not let an area run dry or else it could cause everything else to unravel).










